The headline above is not exactly how it was reported in the mainstream media. Apparently a ‘young raging son’ battered a naked man because the ‘naked man’ was having sex with his mother while his dad was away on work. No mention of his colour, ethnicity, religion or motivation. It was a simple case of young man who got angry. ‘The raging son’ is quoted as saying “what would you have done?” and “this guy was sleeping with my mother”. The ‘young angry son’ was clearly embarrassed by the situation and felt that his mother was behaving inappropriately.
An honour killing is the murder of an individual, due to the perpetrators’ belief that the victim has brought shame or dishonour upon the family or community.
I am sure if this ‘young angry man’ was brown, Pakistani (Asian) or Muslim the headline an coverage of this horrific event would have been very different.
Report news, according to facts not according to your preconceived ideas of certain people or a community.
A British couple were ordered to serve a month long sentence for kissing in public and pay a fine of £200 for drinking alcohol in public. Mr Ayman Najafi, 24 has been working in Dubai for over 14 months and Ms Charlotte Adams, 26 was on holiday when the incident occurred.
The incident was reportedly highlighted to the police by a 38 year old Emirati woman, who felt that the British couple were behaving indecently in public.
Now here is my problem with this:
1: Dubai (UAE) has placed itself as the hottest tourist destination in the Middle East, inviting and attracting people from all over the world. What do you think would happen when you’re marketing your country as a free for all and a haven for sun worshippers?
2: Alcohol is widely available in the UAE and is even consumed by its own citizens. UAE even has its own brewery in Ajman.
3: Lets’ face it if an Emirati has accused a non-Emirati, there is very little chance of a fair trial.
I am sorry If i sound a little annoyed but I cannot stand double standards. All of the above 3 points reap of hypocrisy. If you want to be Islamic, then why pick and choose the commands of Allah? Why sell your country for a few dollars? Why discriminate against the people that built and are building your empire?
In order for me to enter Egypt on a work visa, I need to go through a rigorous procedure, which everyone seems to be keeping to themselves until the last moment.
Here is how I went about to get my work visa sorted from Jordan.
I have to certify my British Certificates which have already been certified by my current employer but this is not enough. The British Council does not certify them unless they have written conformation my institutes. The institutes where I rightly gained my certificates from tend not to reply to emails. After numerous emails, international calls and lots of faxes I received the confirmation that I needed. However, this was not good enough as the British Council would like the confirmations sent to them directly. This vital information was omitted from me on the numerous occasions I spoke to the staff at the British Council.
Having completed this procedure, I went to the Egyptian Embassy to get my papers stamped. After painful and long queues in all the queues where I was not suppose to queue, I found out that the Egyptian Embassy does not accept stamps of other Councils such as the British. I have to get the documents stamped from the British Embassy.
I went to the British Embassy who informed me that they will be happy to stamp the documents but at a price of 41 JDs although their own Council has stamped and authorised my documents. This for some reason does not mater and I have to pay the amount they have requested. I had to get 4 documents stamped; I was not carrying such a large sum of money. After I had stamped the documents from the British Embassy, I preceded back to the Egyptian Embassy. At the Egyptian Embassy I was informed that they cannot stamp my documents if the Foreign Ministry of Jordan has not stamped the documents. I then went to the Foreign Ministry of Jordan and got all my documents stamped. Finally I went to the Egyptian Embassy to stamp my documents, I was told that each stamp would cost me 16JDs and I would need to return the next day to pick up my documents.
All the above procedure took me over a month. To be honest this could have been shortened to a few days if only people firstly, did their jobs, secondly all embassy staff were trained on procedures so that they can provide all the information from the beginning and finally if all the Embassies actually bothered to talk to one another and just try to understand each other and work together for once.
Wishful thinking I suppose.
(photo by wasapninjordan)
What is it about the perfectly warm and hospitable people, as they are known throughout the land of Jordan, but when you interact with some of them in a small building called the British Council, Amman that they turn rude and arrogant? I have had numerous interactions with the staff members working for the British Council over the year or so and after every contact with them I have tried to give them the benefit of the doubt that maybe ‘they have had a bad day’ or ‘it’s not their fault.’ Every time I interact with them my perception about the staff working at the British Council becomes increasingly negative.
I have had staff members sitting behind the service desks without smiles and being plain rude, to the extent of telling me to be quiet for asking a question because the member of staff was not ready to answer. I have dealt with staff who could not be bothered to give me the correct information because god knows why? And by the way, the members of staff do not make mistakes – it never happens, so don’t even try to correct them. To be honest the list goes on and I am not the only one who feels the same way. Many of my colleagues agree with me.
It is a shame to see people behave in such an appalling manner. I wonder if it is because of the place they work in.
Man sleeps on a donkey cart which is his home and his livelihood in Pakistan.
(photo by wasapninjordan)
I am a writer and a moderator for expatfocus.com. The aim of expatfocus.com is ‘to make life easier for anyone moving or living abroad by being the most comprehensive information and support resource for expatriates on the Web today.’
I read an interesting article on the blog of expatfocus.com and I had to write a piece on it after reading the blog. The blog talks about an article published in the British newspaper ‘the telegraph’ last month. The author of the blog then raises some interesting points about integrity and about ‘doing the right thing.’
The original article is talking about the mentality of local Italians and the mentality of cheating and “Everyone does it. Why shouldn’t I?” The article discusses how a doctor encourages a patient to cheat the system to raise extra money for a holiday and another example where the ‘head of the traffic police in Rome was found to have parked illegally using an out-of-date disabled parking sticker.’
Here are my thoughts on this.
I have been very fortunate to travel to Jordan, Syria, Lebanon, Turkey, Egypt and Pakistan in the recent past. I experienced this “Everyone does it. Why shouldn’t I?” attitude of looking after number one. I was conned by an elderly taxi driver of almost triple of the agreed price and in another occasion I haggled my price of a good to 70% less then the starting price and still wondered if I was bring conned.
Deception, conning, and lying exists throughout the world and it is wrong where ever it is carried out. In my opinion there are two types of deception; one is out of necessity and I don’t mean the necessity due to addiction but necessity due to survival. Deceiving people or conning tourists due to the economic situation of the particular country; in those parts of the world people deceive because they have to, because without it they will not be able to put food on the table that feeds the family. For example the average salary for a policeman in Pakistan has risen from 3000 rupees per month (£22pm) to 9000 rupees per month (£66pm) which is still about 15000 rupees less then what is required to sustain an agreeable living without being categorised as poor. Pakistan was labelled as one of the most corrupt countries in the world. In my opinion this type of deception is somewhat understandable although I would never do it and it is wrong out of principle.
The second type of deception, lying and conning is out of want; the greed of human beings pushing them to want more and more. The want to own a second home, or to buy a better car or simply to own more then your neighbour. It is this type of deception that I cannot understand? Where a perfectly economically stable person deceives another without need but is motivated by want.
Wrong is wrong and we should not accept any wrong and we should always try to do the right thing but at the same time let us try to understand that sometimes, although the action may appear to be the same, its motives are different. Hence I think there is a difference between the two types of deceptions although the action is the same and they are both WRONG.